The “Gay Must by Good” argument goes that since that G-d made me this way, it must be that I’m supposed to live as a gay person. This is a flawed argument. For the sake of this post, I’ll accept that G-d makes people gay, that it is entirely a biological fact. It still does not follow that you should live as a homosexual.
G-d made me desirous of polygamy. I am happily married to a woman to whom I am attracted – physically, emotionally, and spiritually. If I work it through, it makes no sense, but what can I say. G-d made me this way. I have desires for other women – married, single, tall and short. He made me this way.
Counter Argument #1.
Yeah, but you can at least fulfill your desires with your wife.
Sorry. Nothing doing. The way G-d made me has nothing to do with one woman. Two also won’t be enough. I just read about some guy getting tossed in jail for 86 wives – a clear violation of sharia law! He has a clue of what it’s all about. G-d made him that way. You go, Brother!
Nope. It’s not an argument about sexual orientation. You, my gay friend, are not satisfied with a woman. Me neither. I need more. You need men.
Counter Argument #2.
Yeah, so, do it. Give in. If your wife won’t be hurt by it, than maybe you should.
Oops. That’s humanism. I can try to write a post on why humanism doesn’t work, but I’m stuck on this one. My simple answer for now is that there is a morality. I believe it’s from G-d – in the Bible/Torah. I believe that the same G-d that says that I can’t sleep with a man tells me that I can’t fulfill my desires for 86 wives.
What’s left?
Monogamous heterosexuality.
Not so simple.
The rest is the work of life. You’re not satisfied sexually without men. I’m not satisfied with one wife. Tough. This is part of what spriritual work includes. Sexual purity includes working on one’s thoughts and desires. Stop objectifying people – men or women. Life is not to indulge in every pleasure. There are spiritual pursuits, and they demand some physical discipline. Staying faithful to my wife is a constant struggle. No, I don’t walk around controlling myself from propositioning women. I do, however, walk around controlling myself from staring and dreaming of other women. I must be on constant vigil against objectifying women.
If this is shocking to you, or if you think that this makes me base, you are blessedly naive. This is very normal for men. We are visually stimulated, and in order to be faithful in thought (as well as deed and word), we must regularly work on self-control. I can’t give in. It’s a constant battle.
If you consider yourself gay, I am very aware that it’s not easy. It can be done. More on being “cured” later. I take issue with the language (as do most people with SSA), but the bottom line is not giving in to everything that you want.
